If you are constantly disappointed in the results of your expectations, try to think about the difference between unmet expectations and confident expectations. Unmet expectations are disappointing and frustrating, and can lead to long-term pain and anger unless you are able to identify the source and reverse your thinking. Confident expectation is the definition of HOPE. It is the confident expectation of something good to come. Romans 5:5 tells us that hope does not disappoint. Therefore, confident expectation is hope and the opposite of unmet expectations.
Look at the definitions for the words “disappoint” and “disappointment” as stated in Webster’s:
- Disappoint – To fail to fulfill the hopes of a person
- Disappointment – The frustration of one’s hopes, annoyance due to failure.
Both definitions include the word “hopes”. And so, if you are not going to be disappointed, two things must occur.
- Your expectations are to be according to the will of God. Is what you are expecting in keeping with His word and mission for your life?
- Your expectations are to be about your Living Hope who is Christ Jesus and not in people or things. People will disappoint, but hope in God does not.
“Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! In His great mercy he has given us new birth into a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, and into an inheritance that can never perish, spoil or fade – kept in heaven for you, who through faith are shielded by God’s power until the coming of the salvation that is ready to be revealed in the last time.” (I Peter 1:3)
Are your expectations confident that God’s power is shielding you from disappointment? If you have any question about that, look at Ephesians 6:6 to discover the significance of the shield. What is the shield but faith in Him? Lift it up, keep your eyes on Jesus, praising God for the result of what you expect, no matter what the end result may be and you will not be disappointed but rather empowered to press on.
Have this attitude in yourself, that even though Jesus was in very nature God, He humbled Himself to obedience in the will of God. And so, we must ask ourselves the question, what is the will of God in any given situation that comes our way. Are we willing to yield to His will? His expectation of us is to live out the hope that is within us, The Lord Jesus Christ Himself.